You Are NOT Your Circumstance

**I just created this post for my Empower Network blog, but it was so powerful I had to post it here, too!**

I just listened to this AMAZING Empower Network midday call and let me tell you that my Higher Power has a way of speaking to me. I’ve been asking for a lot of things lately: support, clarity, honesty, someone to believe in me…and I got them all jam packed into a one hour call.

The gist of the call was this: you are not your circumstance. In fact, you are bigger than your circumstance. I get this concept, really, I do. I teach it to others constantly. Yet it’s difficult for me to digest this for myself. I know I’m not in the worst situation in the world, but I’m not in the best situation either. Even with that being the case my situation does not define me – I define me!

I have a gift for writing. I started creating stories when I was young. In fact, I made my first book when I was in the third grade. It was a class assignment. When I made that book something activated in me. I’ve been a writer ever since. In middle school I was always writer of the week. I created songs, poems, short stories – you name it, I probably wrote about it. My gift was derailed in the 8th grade when I wrote a poetic story that the guidance counselor thought was too mature of a subject for such a young mind. She confiscated it and said I couldn’t get it back unless my parents came and got it. That wasn’t happening so I let it go.

That event did something to me. It caused me not to write for YEARS! In fact, I didn’t start writing again until I needed a way to release my thoughts while in an abusive relationship. It was my only recourse to help me get through it. It actually helped me get out of it. That’s when I realized that my gift was not something to be ashamed of, suppressed, or “tinkered with.” It was my passion, my purpose, my way to reach out to others and re-tell their own stories in a way that gives them a better outcome.

Since then, I’ve published 3 paperback books, 5 ebooks, several articles and poems, and have been hired by others to write for them. I’ve had my moments where writing is all I want to do, and then I’ve had moments where writing is the last thing that I want to do. It’s my gift, and thanks to my initial circumstance I was able to revive it.

So what does this have to do with you? Well, there is a circumstance in your life – one that is only known to you – that you are probably avoiding. What is that one tasks, that one activity, that one distraction that brings joy into you and takes you out of your circumstance for that moment? Whatever that task, activity, or distraction is, I’m willing to bet it will lead you to your destiny!

My task was writing. My activity was creating stories. My distraction was getting lost in another world that I invented to recreate a better scenario for myself. You’re doing the same thing, just in a different way. And that’s okay. You don’t have to succumb to your circumstances because it’s just a temporary hiccup in your life. It doesn’t define you. YOU define you! Your Higher Power defines you! Your destiny defines you! Whatever you want out of life – love, money, health, happiness, success, notoriety, a family – it can be yours if you control your circumstance instead of letting it control you.

I, personally, am still learning how to fully control certain circumstances in my life so I’m not going to pretend like I have it 100% together. No one does, really. The ones that do have passed the test of life and moved on to the next realm. Yet I can recognize now when I’m in control and when I’m letting my circumstance control me. That awareness puts me in the moment. And in that moment I’m able to make a decision. That’s all life is, really – a series of decisions. I’m learning to make the decisions that are a little scary, a little uncomfortable, yet are better than dealing with the comfort of convenience, complacency, and circumstances.

I’m learning to stretch. I’m learning to grow. And I encourage you to do the same. So what circumstances are you facing that you need help dealing with? What do you want to let go of? Remember, it’s easier to face a fear when you know you’re not alone, and even if no one else on the face of this earth hears you, I’m listening and I got your back. Why? Because this is what I do!

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