“A little boy was having difficulty lifting a heavy stone.
His father came along just then.
Noting the boy’s failure, he asked, “Are you using all your strength?”
“Yes, I am,” the little boy said impatiently.
“No, you are not,” the father answered.
“I am right here just waiting, and you haven’t asked me to help you.”
How many times have you struggled through a problem or obstacle and gave it all you had? How many times have you encountered a brick wall and single-handedly tried to knock it down? How many times have you faced an adversity that seemed like it wouldn’t budge?
Now ask yourself how many times have you asked for help?
You see, we are an interdependent society. Isolation gets you nothing but loneliness and suffering. Yet so many people feel that asking for help is a sign of weakness or defeat; as if it revokes their “story” or eliminates them from receiving the “self-made” crown. They have to be independent – society says so! For if they are not then they’re just a mass of energy taking up time, space, and opportunity.
Asking for help cannot, will not, and does not mean you are weak or defeated. In fact, it takes a lot of strength and courage to ask for help. Do you know how much of your ego you will have to overpower to pick up a phone, create an email, or even knock on someone’s door to ask for help? That, my dear Rockstar, cannot be done by a weakling! That can only be mastered by someone who has mastered their inner self, and mastering your inner self requires a lot of strength, courage, and will power.
Do not allow society, your family or friends, co-workers, up-line, down-line, clients, significant or not-so-significant other, or anyone else tell you that asking for help is bad. In fact, if these same people make you feel like you can’t ask them for help then you need to re-evaluate your relationship with them. Everyone needs support and encouragement when they are feeling down – because you will have moments of weakness, don’t get it twisted – and it is during these moments you will need strong shoulders to lean on. Yet these shoulders don’t just “pop up” in your life. Sometimes you have to ask for them.
Personal story: I have a tendency to be very headstrong. I don’t like asking for help due to the plethora of disappointments I’ve had in the past. Even after realizing those disappointments came from the wrong people I am still hesitant to ask for assistance. So it should come as no surprise that I have been hesitant to ask for help in one of my most recent challenges.
It involves sales.
I used to say that I’m not a salesperson. I stopped saying that because of my belief that what you speak about you bring about, but the reality of the matter is that I do have a difficult time with sales and it’s based on my past conditioning. Lately, I’ve been trying to get out of my comfort zone with it and while I have gotten better I’m still not as good as I want to be in this particular realm.
Then someone put the spotlight on me. I thank God for this person because they opened the door to allow me to ask for help…and I did! And the best part about it is they were more than willing to give me all the help that I need. In fact, an entire team started to come forth to assist me. There is truth to the saying, “Ask and ye shall receive.” It’s in every religious book, every doctrine, every self-help book, every support group poster…I’m just saying! It’s everywhere and it’s there for a reason. Ask and ye shall receive! So…
- Ask for the date.
- Ask for the sale.
- Ask for advice.
- Ask for the loan.
- Ask for a chance.
- Ask for a raise.
- Ask for HELP!
It seems simple and it is, once you get over your fears – and your ego – and do it. The more you ask for help the more you’ll receive it. It’s there for you. All you need to do is open your mouth and ask.