As we fade out of these excessive commitments, there is one point I want you to remember. Y’all know that I STRONGLY believe in showing gratitude for EVERYTHING that happens in life, because it all happens for a reason. There is a reason behind your excessive need to over-commit. Even if you don’t see it directly, your subconscious mind is trying to tell you something. That is why you keep getting stuck in this perpetual circle of endless commitments. There is a message here you need to learn.
So…what is it?
Well, you will have to figure that part out for yourself. Everyone’s lessons are different and unique to their lives. What might be the lesson for me could be quite different from what you need to learn. While I can’t manipulate what you’re supposed to get out of these over-commitments, I will share with you my own personal lesson…or what I have analyzed thus far.
My issue is this (and yes, even the Rockstarr has issues to work through!); you know that powerful word I’ve been talking about all this week? Yeah, THAT word. Well, I have yet to MASTER its purpose and utilization. But here’s the thing. It’s not the fact that I can’t say “no”, it’s that there are certain people I WON’T (yes, it’s a choice) say it to. Not many people get this luxury. I can actually count them all on one hand. However, that’s still too many because absolutely, positively NO ONE should be exempt from hearing “no” from time to time.
I will readily admit that my hesitation, well, lack of utilization, of the word “no” with these individuals has gotten me into predicaments and commitments that I’d rather not have been a part of. That is 100% on me. I can say it without a blink of an eye to others (respectfully, of course), but what I really need to work on is saying it to those that I have a difficult time saying “no” to.
You’re probably wondering what “power” do these people have over me or why do I feel like I can’t tell them “no.” Well, for me there are several reasons behind it. Remember, I’m a “people pleaser” and these are the closest people to me. In general, when someone is there at your lowest point you almost feel like you owe them because they didn’t have to be there. I know that should make it all the more easier, and I should probably feel comfortable telling them that I can’t commit to something. That’s not always the case. In fact, in most cases it conjures up the opposite feeling to where you don’t feel comfortable telling them certain things that you think will upset them.
This usually isn’t the case. Most of the time those closest to you are understanding – overstanding, even. MOST OF THE TIME! Remember, there are those closest to you that you have to watch the hardest. This doesn’t apply to them. For those type of people (that should have been filtered out by now), you need, want, and HAVE TO utilize the word “no” because they will do anything and everything to throw you off track.
At any rate, that’s my lesson. That’s why I keep getting asked to do this, that, or the other. I am, well, more like my subconscious mind is, putting out messages to the Universe to teach me this lesson. When I learn it and APPLY it (there goes that magical word again!), then the excessive requests for commitments will stop. Until I can prove that I can stay within my boundaries and say “no” to the ones that I won’t say it to, the lesson will continue. I have to pass the exam before I can move on to the next lesson.
While lessons like these irk my nerves, I’m grateful for them because they expose my not-so-strong points and allow me to strengthen them. The stronger I get, the more I can handle. The more I can handle, the more I will be blessed with. The more I’m blessed with, the more I can give to others. The more I give, the more I receive. It’s an upward spiral! W00t!
Find the lesson behind your need to over-commit. Be grateful for that lesson. Learn it, APPLY it, and watch your life literally transform right before your eyes. It may feel scary, but remember that hindsight is 20/20. What you F.E.A.R. (Finding Excuses, Avoiding Results©) today, will be funny tomorrow.
Rockstarr ~ Over & Out